I was told of this story of two brothers. One was a drug addict and drunk who frequently beat up his family. The other was a very successful businessman who was respected in society and had a wonderful family. Some people wanted to find out why two brothers from the same parents, bought up in the same environment, could be so different.
The first one was asked, “How come you do what you do?” You are a drug addict, a drunk, and you beat your family. What motivates you?” He said, “My father.” They asked, “What about your father?” The repy was, “My father was a drug addict, a drunk and he beat his family. What do you expect me to be? That is what I am.”
They went to the brother who was doing everything right and asked him the same question. “How come you are doing everything right? What is your source of motivation?” And this is what he says :”My father. When I was a little boy, I used to see my dad drunk and doing all the wrong things. I made up my mind that is not what I wanted to be.”
Both were deriving their strength and motivation from the same source, but one was using it positively and the other negatively.
Picture this, on a sunny day, there are hundreds of boats sailing in all different directions in a lake. Have you ever wondered, even though the wind is blowing in one direction, the sailboats are going in different directions.
The reason for the sailboats going in a different directions is because it depends on the way the sail is set, and that is determined by the sailor.
How can we apply the same concept to our lives? We are not able to choose the direction of the wind, but we can choose how we set the sail.
We can choose our habits and attitude even though we cannot always choose our circumstances. It is our mindset that is the essence, we can have a mindset of a victim or a mindset of a victor.
We cannot control all that is happening in our lives, but we have the ability to control how we manage and deal with the events.
Rainbow is created with both sunshine and rain, so are our lives. We have happiness and sorrow, success and failure, good and bad. We need to manage our adversity to make us grow and be stronger.
We have the power to choose, we can reset our sail with the changing winds rather than allowing ourselves to be blown in the direction that was not our choosing. Choose a victor mindset, rather than a victim mentality.