Expressing love is one of the most wonderful and beautiful things in life for any kind of relationships, for examples, husbands and wives, parents and children, teachers and students, bosses and subordinates, friends and co-workers and etc. It has not been easy for me to say, “I love You” I prefer to do it through non-verbal ways. I am more comfortable in showing my feelings through my actions and through acts of service.
For example, I love my parents very much and often, I will not hesitate to run errands for them. I will do small acts of service to warm their hearts or buy their favorite food just to make them happy. Assuming that by doing things for them, they know that I care and there is no need for spoken words. However, recently, I began to understand that although acts of service are important, being able to use words to show how much I care can go a long way.
A couple of weeks ago, my mom broke down over a devastating news that my beloved aunt has stage 4 cancer and although I have done many things for my aunt in the past, I do not remember a time that I verbally expressed my love for her. I visited her in hospital after hearing the heartbreaking news, wanting to pray with her and tell her how much I care, however, I found myself struggling to tell her how much I love her. I spent my time giving her an hour of body massage (act of service) without saying a word. That night, before I left the hosiptal, she extended her arms to hug me and she whispered “I love you”. I tried hard to hold back my tears and gather all the courage I could to whisper “I love you too.”
I have learnt that expressing sincere compliments and giving sincere words of affirmation can enhance happiness both to the recipient and the giver. It would be better if one could use multiple approaches to express your affection. If you can express love in languages different from your primary language, it shows how much effort you are making to keep your loved one happy and that makes it extra special.
(I love the above video created by soul Pancake street team – it’s called Street Compliments)
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Don’t limit yourself to show your affection within a single love language (Dr Gary Chapman concept of The five love languages). Don’t wait for another ‘perfect’ time to say, “I love you” Don’t wait for another day. Now is the best time ….
Seize the day and keep discovering special ways to demonstrate and express your love. At the end of the day, you will know you have made a positive difference in the lives of your loved ones and warmth their hearts in significant ways.
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