I met a friend who shared with me that he is facing great challenges paying his mortgages and newly bought car.
I suggested that he could review his financial commitments, give up his ‘wants’ and keep only those things that are really necessary. He said it is difficult to let go of his possessions. Acquiring expensive things give him a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.
Some of us are driven by an inner desire to impress others. This desire is often reflected in the things we owned which are branded products, we frequent expensive restaurants or perhaps the career that we choose with a fancy job title attached to it.
However, are branded products, expensive restaurants and fancy cars really that impressive and can it make us happy for long?
Think about the following questions :
He drives a Jaguar, but is he struggling to pay the monthly car payment?
He owns a prestigious house, but is it a place full of love ?
He holds an elite position in his career, but does he likes what he does for a living?
What appeared to be impressive in the eyes of other people may be depressive to the person who struggles to constantly trying to keep up with his powerful status.
On the contrary, imagine a person who loves what he does for a living, have a positive and enthusiastic attitude about life. Would he impress you? Would it matter that he is not a multi millionaire with a big house and a fancy car ?
Here are some ways to impress others without having the need for prestigious materials possessions attached to it.
1) Help others that is within your capacity and ability.
In life, you get what you give, leave a positive impact in someone else’s life by lending a helping hand or an empathic ears. Everyone values the gifts of unexpected assistance and do without expecting something in return.
2) Learn to be grateful and appreciative of others.
People may come and go and many things are only temporary, however, no matter how long or short the time may be, appreciate every moment you have with your loved ones. Be thankful for your successes. Be thankful for your failures also as it teaches you some hard truth and life’s lessons. Learn patience in an imperfect world.
3) Be self-sufficient.
Leverage on the resources you do have access to. Many are amazed when they see a handicap person accomplished great things and have a happy outlook about life.
Normal people wondered how could someone who has limited physical ability be so positive? The answer lies in how they use the resources they do have.
4) Care about people
My leadership mentor, John C Maxwell reminded us that it is important to care for others. He adds : “People do not care how much you know, they want to know how much you cared.” Be genuinely, because people will know if you truly care for them and the more you help others, the more they will want to help you.
5) Be authentic
Live by your own terms, stick to your principles and create your own destiny. Living in the life of others’ expectations and terms will create stress and rob you of your true potential and happiness. Forget about what people think of you, what matters most is what you think about yourself. Design the life you want. Be your own best architect.
I want to encourage you today to know that if you look inside your heart, you can find everything you need within to inspire yourself and others. You do not need material possessions to impress others, those who are truly impressive and respected are those who are able to influence, inspire and motivate people without tangible possessions.
Use your God’s given talents and unique gifts fruitfully. Never forget how special you are! Let your light SHINE !